Ahoy Cap’n NEMO!

Squeeze and release.  Squeeze and release.  When you get right down to it, that’s all that the climax of sexual response consists of.  Whether it’s the relatively quick succession of contractions that pump semen out of your crotch, or the longer muscular contractions in other parts of your body, it’s really about getting in touch with your body on the primordial level.  It’s the basic experience of your physicality through your own skin, muscles, and breath.  That’s why fucking is so closely related to working out and big emotions such as joy and rage–these are the emotions that usually get you to want to do something physical.

Yet most guys don’t know anything about this or, if they do, it’s on the most superficial level, or it comes from a needlessly complicated and affected place such as Taoist philosophy.  Reading some sort of instruction manual about how to achieve non-ejaculatory male orgasms (NEMO) may be a good place to start for some.  But it’s always better to just be told the truth from the beginning.  If you’re alive, then your body is already prepared to experience great love, sex, and dry and regular orgasms.  It’s that simple.  If you have muscles that you can contract, then all you have to do is practice nudging them in the pleasure direction by cultivating your horniness.

I started learning NEMOs when I was twenty-two years old from a book written by a Taoist healer and a western writer.  It was okay.  I guess I did learn some things, but it was a bit fussy.  All I really needed was practice in “reading” my own body and letting it lead the way through a decades-long journey of self-discovery.  I think books and research can help get one started, so give them a try if you truly have no idea what this post is about.

I also started playing with my rectum at that early point in my life, such that now I am very aware of what is going on down there.  Many guys have only recently started learning about sex and their bodies, so I feel quite frustrated that I am so far ahead of most men in this regard.  Hopefully I’ll meet a wise gay sexual dynamo like me soon.  Are you one?  If so, please write me today.

Anyway, back to dry cumming.  What does the body consist of for the most part?  Muscles, bones, organs, and skin.  Therefore, eventually feeling a full-body NEMO might require getting in touch (no pun intended) with your skin organ, which is the largest organ of your body.  Touching, caressing, stimulating, and playing with yourself is great fun–all over yourself.  Let your hands and fingers go where they want.

The next thing I figured out, with my particular body, is that my lungs are the pathway to bringing my orgasmic contractions away from my pelvic floor and into my upper body.  What I do is calm myself down and relax for a while before taking in a deep breath.  I hold the breath for a few moments and feel the sex feeling down my middle and start contracting my pelvic floor, legs, stomach, pretty much everything, even my neck, face, arms, and my hands turn in to fists.  And I start breathing again, of course.  It’s like a cum that never fully finishes, so it can last indefinitely.  It’s a great way to feel your personal POWER.  After a little bit, I bring it down and totally relax and breath normally.  But I don’t feel spent like one does after a regular ejac, so I can start all over again in a few moments or minutes–whenever I want–because the horny feeling doesn’t go away.  It’s a great way to make lovemaking LAST.

The loser guys, who believe sex is something that is literally supposed to last a few seconds, are missing out in ways they can’t possibly imagine!  I met one once.  I know he was trying his best, but he came while trying to put it in my ass; he couldn’t even get it in, much less thrust in and out.  He actually LECTURED me that real life isn’t like the pornos where the guys fuck forever.  I was like, have you ever tried it big guy?  I don’t know what they do in the pornos, but in REAL LIFE, a man can fuck for hours if he really wants to.  It just takes time, maturity, self-awareness, healing, and patience, all of which most men do not possess.  Another irritating thing this guy did was dribble instead of squirt.  I guess in real life, men don’t shoot like in the pornos…  Jesus God, could this guy be any lazier?  He really had a lot going for him:  a huge gray grower of a dick, over six feet tall, full beard, very nice.  But if you never get healthy, functional, positive information about male sexuality, then I guess this is how you end up.

I also think dribbling is unhealthy, because it prevents the full evacuation of the contents of the prostate which, over time, could lead to prostate problems.  You wanna get that stuff outta there, preferably in spectacular fashion!  It’s not showing off, it’s showing yourself and other men what is possible.  That’s why cultivating a group of friends, who get to know and trust each other, for fuck parties is so critically important for the healing of men.  The more men experience each other sexually, the less they will fear their gay sexuality and their own bodies.  In other words, if you see a lot of other men’s bodies, you intuitively learn that your own body is okay too, and you stop comparing it to the bodies of models and porno guys.  Admittedly, their bodies can be amazing and inspiring, but if you look really closely, you can see that they’re not perfect either.  No one is.  Every man’s body has uniquely charming features that can be expounded upon.  What are yours?  Please let me know.

So naturally, I now have a taste for Captain NEMO and his fabulous full-body fucks.  It’s fun!  Todd is really into it.  So I am in the process of getting more comfortable doing it in front of another guy.  It does take some explaining though.  When I find a guy who is into it (and let’s be honest, why would he NOT be), I try subtly to get the point across that it might look like I’m in some sort of pain, or having a seizure or something, but really I’m having an orgasm.  It’s taking place in other parts of my body, that’s all.  That usually makes sense to most guys.  Todd did continue to ask me if I were okay, even after I explained it, but that is very understandable in light of my going bonkers with NEMOs.  I mean my facial expressions get kind of crazed after a while.  I kept reassuring him, and it worked out beautifully.  Like everything else in life, this is an imperfect process that takes time and patience.  Yet, as complex as this might sound, it pales in comparison to what it takes to have a healthy friendship/relationship that continues to be safe and rife with functional communication.  Todd is a good soul who tries.  I am a good soul who tries.  Therefore, we have the potential for a long lasting adventure; the work of a happy sexual friendship never ends, but it is fun work that makes you glad to be alive, male, and super gay.  {>^<V}

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